I’ve got a question about wedding invitation etiquette. Actually, I’ve got LOTS of etiquette questions, but we’ll focus on one thing at a time. Normally, I might turn to the tried and true Miss Emily Post, but I’m not sure that I would find this situation in her book of advice.
Here is a glimpse of some of the wording that I think that Mr. CC and I have settled on for our invitations: (not our real names)
Option A:
The honor of your presence
is requested as
Betty Jean Scott
and
Samuel John Adams
are joined in marriage.
Option B:
The honor of your presence
is requested as
Betty Jean
and
Samuel John
are joined in marriage.
The only difference in the two options is our names and the format used to present them. Option A shows with our first, middle and last names, and Option B does not list our last names. Mr. CC actually doesn’t have an opinion on these two choices, as he got LOTS of say in the splicing and dicing of several different invitations that we used to design the whole invitation. What do you think?
The only reason that it bothers me is because my previous last name is on the first option. Obviously, since Mr. CC is a guy, when he got divorced, he didn’t lose his last name. Since I had a child from my previous marriage, I kept my married last name after the divorce. And I think that it looks awkward being on my wedding invitation now.
I could always go with Option C, which would read:
The honor of your presence
is requested as
Betty Jean
and
Samuel John Adams
are joined in marriage.
This last option would show me with no last name and Mr. CC’s last name…which looks like my middle name is my last name. That option looks a little off to me too. Normally, I might not put this much thought into something so minor, but this is our WEDDING INVITATION, so it kinda matters. And I would like to do something nice like framing one of these for our house, so it really matters to me what my name shows like.
Give me your opinion, if you have one. Am I being silly here? Help me out, please!
Here is a glimpse of some of the wording that I think that Mr. CC and I have settled on for our invitations: (not our real names)
Option A:
The honor of your presence
is requested as
Betty Jean Scott
and
Samuel John Adams
are joined in marriage.
Option B:
The honor of your presence
is requested as
Betty Jean
and
Samuel John
are joined in marriage.
The only difference in the two options is our names and the format used to present them. Option A shows with our first, middle and last names, and Option B does not list our last names. Mr. CC actually doesn’t have an opinion on these two choices, as he got LOTS of say in the splicing and dicing of several different invitations that we used to design the whole invitation. What do you think?
The only reason that it bothers me is because my previous last name is on the first option. Obviously, since Mr. CC is a guy, when he got divorced, he didn’t lose his last name. Since I had a child from my previous marriage, I kept my married last name after the divorce. And I think that it looks awkward being on my wedding invitation now.
I could always go with Option C, which would read:
The honor of your presence
is requested as
Betty Jean
and
Samuel John Adams
are joined in marriage.
This last option would show me with no last name and Mr. CC’s last name…which looks like my middle name is my last name. That option looks a little off to me too. Normally, I might not put this much thought into something so minor, but this is our WEDDING INVITATION, so it kinda matters. And I would like to do something nice like framing one of these for our house, so it really matters to me what my name shows like.
Give me your opinion, if you have one. Am I being silly here? Help me out, please!
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The first question I would ask is: What type of wedding are you having? Is it formal and at a place of worship? If it is then you will use the "honour" and full names. When you only see first and middle name is usually because the parents are hosting the wedding and their names are listed. If you don't want to use your last name then you can use very casual wording and skip the formalities but guests will assume the event will be the same way. This leads me to a question for you, are you changing your last name after the wedding?for now, the last name you're using is your last name and everything has that name for now. Only you can make this decision...
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